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Be a HERO to someone today


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You know, heroes are ordinary people that have achieved extraordinary things in life.  ~ Dave Winfield

The funny thing about us people is that we are perhaps the only species that does a mistake knowingly and with full awareness. We are the only creation on this planet that know what is wrong and still make a deliberate choice to do it anyway.A superior creation with the greatest gift of skills, knowledge, and abilities that surpasses every other creation, do this.We know the consequences of smoking and fully aware of the numerous stats and facts there are available, yet we willingly choose to smoke.We know how our actions, careless attitude and words may hurt the very people we love, yet we do it.We know what we need to do to succeed in life, become better people, and make simple yet great contributions to our world, yet we choose to take the lazy or easier path in life.

We the “Knowledgeable Man” – “Human Beings” do it.

If there is anything that the world, history, people, life, and every major event has thought us, it is that we people can do the most amazing of things in each of our lives. We can destruct, create, hate, love, take or give and live as nobody and stay bitter due to our prejudice or become somebody and leave behind a legacy. We can make great positive contributions to humanity, our family or even just one individual. We can influence, coax, inspire or provide.

Yet we either choose to do nothing or often choose to do what is wrong.

When we compare to those who lived just a few decades ago, we go to work in much more sophisticated cars, speak to people on a wireless telephone linked to our car via Bluetooth, work on a laptop with soft wares that practically required basic data input, come home to super think 3D TV programs, best of foods, inside our fanciest houses, and sleep on perhaps the most comfortable and scientifically developed luxurious mattress. And never stop finding reasons to complain about our life, people, fate, bad luck and anything we can find to blame things on!

A little patience and thought in making choices, a little bit of honest introspection, a positive attitude, some faith, and a whole lot of tolerance. Hold these together using sound morals, good values, and sincere and consistent attempts to make yourself a better person, shall make you nothing short of a “Super Human” or more so a “Super Hero”.

My heroes are the ones who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them. ~ Bono

So, what does this “Super Hero’s” do? Well, just about what we have known them for doing. They do good deeds, serve humanity, protect people and loved ones, help the poor and needy, fight every obstacle, fail but never give up, goes away in silent contemplation, returns with solutions and courage, accomplished their objectives, succeeds and become a hero amongst those who depend on them.

Nurture your minds with great thoughts. To believe in the heroic makes heroes.  ~ Benjamin Disraeli
In other words, they are generous and charitable in nature, helpful and giving in deeds, protective of their loved ones and others, brave enough to be willing to face every obstacle in life, and develop solutions to get over them, be willing to fail and learn from their experiences, always keep moving forward in life, think, indulge in some self-analysis, make some positive changes in self, change attitudes and muster courage and persevere until they win.If you give these a little thought, you will soon realize that every single one of these acts is possible by you, I or anyone else. Many of them are very simple ones. Easily do-able. The difference being the will and attitude! You do not have to freeze a lake, move a mountain, or fly around the world to do great things. Your greatness lies in the most simplest of things in your daily lives. Often your deeds are perceived to be much greater than you will ever know by those who value it and receive it. The drive, determination and will to keep trying to win regardless of the obstacles, failures, criticism, or time is what makes the difference.

Heroes may not be braver than anyone else. They’re just braver five minutes longer. ~ Ronald Reagan

Try being a “Super Hero” for just one single moment every day. It may become a habit. That habit may inspire another. That inspiration may become contagious and Voila! You have single-handedly influenced the world around you by that 1 single moment by being a”Super Hero”!  You can do small great things and be a hero at work, become a hero for your spouse, for your children, for your siblings, for yourself. Try doing one thing every day that is either generous, brave, selfless, caring or simply humble. Any of these will only add just another positive moment to your life. No, it doesn’t take much. And once done, make it a habit and collect such several “Super Hero” moments and make your life worthwhile. Sponsor a child, a family, be charitable, volunteer at a local shelter for those in need, be compassionate, tolerant, loving, generous, selfless and forgiving.
The reason progress is slow is that we always expect other men to be the heroes and to live the heroic lives. But we all have hero stuff in us. In our sphere of life we can always live more heroically and triumphantly and grow in heroic stature.  ~ Wilferd A. Peterson

Your CHARACTER defines the real you


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“Character is that which reveals moral purpose, exposing the class of things a man chooses and avoids.”

“A good character carries with it the highest power of causing a thing to be believed.” ARISTOTLE (c. 384 – c. 322 BC) Greek philosopher

 

We each in some form or another yearn for love, respect, compassion, acceptance or acknowledgement regardless of our denials or refusal of this fact due to our respective egos. These things have a larger impact in our lives by bringing “value” the several things we do or set to accomplish in life and in the process helps build our purpose and define our lives for us.

 

“A man’s character is his fate.” HERACLITUS (c. 540 – c. 480 BC) — Greek philosopher

 

 

We each end up searching and finding a mate, sometime we demand as opposed to command the respect we believe we have earned, and at times of difficulties and hardships we anticipate the comfort of compassion and frequently and often secretly desire some sort of acknowledgement or praise for the good deeds we have done or the things we have accomplished. When we do not receive these very things that we so dearly desire, we are left disappointed or hurt. Our life, the things we do, the efforts we put in and all our dreams end up feeling meaningless when we do not get the desired “ultimate outcome” .  Such is life. If victory wasn’t the desire wars would be futile and the ultimate outcome of conquering the land or resource will be meaningless.  We are ultimately simple beings often doing one things or the another to earn the very things we desire that completes us, or gives us purpose, satisfaction, meaning, direction and comfort in our lives.

 

“Fame is a vapor, popularity an accident, riches take wing, and only character endures.” HORACE GREELEY (1811-1872) — New York newspaper editor

 

But these things we so desire are only earned and stays with us based on our characters. For example: we can certainly attract people towards us and invoke love in them for who we claim we are or who we pretend to be, but the love will only be gained and will remain with us if it was built and based on our sound character.  Similarly we will attract a pseudo love or temporary love that will never stand the test of time, hardships, stress, or have integrity or loyalty. Worst is that we will lose such love the moment our true character comes out.

 

“The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically… Intelligence plus character – that is the goal of true education.” MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. (1929-1968) Civil Rights leader

 

The interesting thing about our personalities that invokes people to react to us is our character. Many of us manipulate others to gain the love, respect, compassion and acceptance by pretending to be who we are not and later left hurt and disappointed when we fail in this endeavour. There are those who pretend to be rich, pious, religious, holier than you, hard working, honest, smart, authoritative, experts, etc to gain their desired “ultimate outcome” be it respect, acceptance, love, etc. But when these are not based on truth or honestly the character shall soon reveal the truth and the true identity shall surface. Any honest or intelligent person who meets such pretentious individuals soon identify the true character.  One can do anything but the true ‘character” always prevails and defines the outcomes of what we set to achieve in our lives.

 

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” HELEN KELLER (1880-1968) American blind and deaf writer/lecturer

 

In todays world character holds a greater bearing on our respective individual personalities, goals, values, and most importantly our choices that defines our lives.  Even those who play video games are given the option to build or choose a “character” that will define the strength, qualities, skills and level of success in winning the game. Each character brings with it a whole new and specific set of virtues, strength, character, personality that defines the outcome of the game. The exact same results are defined by our real life characters. What we attract, how we react to experiences in life, how we approach events and people, how we cope with situation, how we reach out and achieve success and how we persevere and fights against this difficult life to accomplish out “ultimate outcome” is defined by our character.

 

“The best index to a person’s character is (a) how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can’t fight back.” ABIGAIL VAN BUREN (“Dear Abby”) advice columnist

 

Love, respect, regard, acceptance, compassion, are all attributed to an individual’s character.  One can be rich, occupy an authoritative position, look dashingly good, appear very beautiful, or religious, the true character is what will eventually prevail and get the world to react to it. Character is what will make or break you. So, what does a desirable and respectable “character” look like and what does it consist of?

 

 

Honesty: One needs to be honest and deal fairly with people regardless of how they feel about the individual. Keep your commitments, fulfill your promises and honor your words.

 

Respectability: Respect yourself and others. Conduct yourself with decency and be watchful of your behavior. Learn to be considerate of other people’s feelings and beliefs. You do not have to agree with them but you need to have the wisdom that peoples beliefs can be just different but not necessarily right or wrong and they are build by years of personal experiences and events in their individual lives. Respect them.

 

Choices: Your life is nothing but the result of YOUR choice. Make educated choices and weigh in the different outcomes of the choices you make. It is your life and your choices is all that makes the difference. By making good choices you influence the desired outcomes in life and all the appreciation, admiration and gratification that comes along with it.

 

Fairness and balanced opinions: Life is not fair, nor are many people and things. But it doesn’t help you becoming like them. You can only bring about fairness by how you play life. Build and uphold fair values and ideologies in life. Be fair in your judgment and actions. Develop and hold balanced opinions. Nothing is the “only” way. There are several ways to look at one single thing in life. Be fair, be known by your fairness and balanced judgment and suddenly you will find the world around you react to you in similar manner.

 

Compassion: Be honest in expressing your feelings ands care for others. Lend a helping hand whenever you can. Serving humanity is the greatest and the most satisfying aspects of life. Like yourself almost every other human being at some point in their life seeks other peoples help. Be there for others when they need you, especially those who depend on you.

 

Gratitude: Express gratitude every time you have an opportunity. Be thankful for all the things you are blessed with in life and appreciate them. There are many who are less blessed than you and there are many who may appear to be more blessed than you. Every human being finds himself or herself in the middle. The rich are unhappy so are the poor. Each person at the end of their spectrum have their share of happiness and unhappiness. Do complaint or compare. But be appreciative and strive to get better and build on what you are blessed with.

 

Be self critical: In order to become better and truly grow in life, one has to learn to be self critical. Ask yourself if how you live is right? Develop moral values and high principals in life. Strive to become a better person. Improve your quality of life, thinking, speech, behavior and choices.

 

Inspire: Build your personality on sound values and actions of positive progress in life. Just as you have a set of individuals and experiences that have inspired you in your lives, you too will invariably have that effect on others. Learn to live life in a manner that inspires others. Your advices and wisdom fall short of your actions and deeds in life.

 

Moral Values: Do things that is right and that which appeals to your moral conscience. Moral behavior develops moral character. The most difficult of times in life are the most testing of your moral behavior and choices. Strive to always be connected to your moral self and chose to do what is right, even if it is the most difficult. It will help you live a life free of any burden of guilt.


Simple proven truths about LIFE


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What we are is God’s gift to us.  What we become is our gift to God.  ~Eleanor Powell

We love to complicate our lives with several things that really enables us to while away time but seldom brings us happiness or experiences of true positive value. We find reasons to blame everything but ourselves for our choices and decisions taken in our lives and worsen a life that was truly meant to be wonderful.

Life is the sum of all your choices.  ~Albert Camus

We are the best of the best and blessed in abundance. We have been brought into life in a body that is lot more advanced and able compared to other living things. We have been gifted a supreme level of sight, ability to taste, listen, feel, emote and communicate like no other creation. We can learn, build, speak, think, rationalize, love, teach, and progress in life. We as a creation have greater ability to survive, fight, create, and experience several other things that other creations cannot. And with all these gifts combined we have evolved to a state of life in today’s world based on our own creations where we can fly, wirelessly communicate, compute, build amazing structures, travel great distances in less time, help others, eradicate diseases, make better living conditions, and leve behind several things for others to build upon. Yet, we complain, destroy, hurt others, cheat, lie, kill and insult our gifts, intelligence and abilities.

For if there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life and in eluding the implacable grandeur of this life.  ~Albert Camus

Here are a few simple and proven truths about life that we seldom realize or often fail to practice:

The feeling of true success is a feeling of pride of your character and deeds when you are alone. It is not your material possession or praise showered upon you by others. It should be rather measured by the love, respect and care you have invoked in others for your character than your wealth. It is a feeling that invokes humility in you rather than arrogance.

We often lose what we need if there is clutter. Such is our life. If we clutter our life with to many things that we do not need, we will lose the ones we do and often when we need it most. It is the difference one experiences in entering a house filled with artifacts, ornaments, and lavish décor, from walking into a large empty clean space with natural light. Live a life of simplicity and freedom. The experience is more gratifying.

Remember that every person you meet in life is like a book. The cover is always designed to be pretty and attractive to impress. Even our cover is such. The material of any person in life is only realized over time and several pages later. Give time for every relationship to grow. Picking up any book cover that catches your fancy could leave you with a burden of a lot of bad material and time analyzing them. Reading one book at a time will give you the wisdom over time to know what to look for in a book sooner.

The bitterness of honesty is better than the sweetness of a lie. To deliver honesty is lot more easier, as it is a word that is given away like a gift to our world and which makes us feel lightened in heart and mind. But a lie spoken is a burden pushed into our world that shall always return to its source for validation by guilt.

Material and money is not a source of happiness for your living but a mere illusion of it. And getting into debt to satisfy a momentary desire for this illusion takes a heavy toll on mind, body and life over an extended period of time. Rather seek true happiness that lies in relationships, love, generosity, forgiveness, character, laughter, and several small experiences in life.

Love everyone one you can. At times, try to love your enemy too. Because once you lose the people who are part of your life, you will miss them lot more than you can imagine. This is true because we are made up of all the experiences we have had in our life, and every single person who we have interacted with have shaped us in one way or another. Cherish their momentary purpose in your life and let them be. Loosing someone from your life will always leave a wound that can never be healed.

It is absolutely vital for us to learn to say “No” in life. By taking on more than our capacity to satisfy one person, will always result in hurting another or your self. Everyone and everybody has limits in life. Let no one exceed theirs and overflow onto you nor you do the same unto others. It is wiser to say “No” and be happy than say “Yes” and get stressed.

Life constantly keeps throwing experiences at you. Like a number of balls being thrown at you. There are fast ones, slow ones, curved ones, spinning ones. It is your choice what you want to do with them. You can dodge them, catch them, kick them, hit them out of the park, block them, or hit them back in any direction you choose. The outcome of the game of life is how and where you hit these balls. It is in your reaction. Think before you react because it is nothing but your reaction that truly shapes your life.

We do many things in life against our own sensibilities and other people’s advice. And we choose to do them because we hold on to our will and determination to do so. When we can do such mistakes stubbornly why can’t we do the right things in the same way? We must learn to apply the same attitude, determination, will and courage we apply to do what is wrong to do things that is right and helps us become better people. These are the attributes that helps us make better choices in life. When we align the right attitude, determination and will with our better choices in life, success becomes inevitable!

Life is truly beautiful. It is we who have made it a mess with our own actions and reactions. But there is nothing that stops us from making it beautiful. Because if there is anger there is forgiveness, if there is hate there is love, if there is discrimination there is acceptance, if there is poverty there is charity, if there are diseases there are cures, if there is war there is peace. It is all about what we choose and why and when. We all are free and can choose that which is right and just and make this world and life beautiful!

 

I believe in pink.  I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner.  I believe in kissing, kissing a lot.  I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong.  I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls.  I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.  ~Audrey Hepburn


Life Goals that are never achieved can hurt you


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Some of the world’s greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible.  ~Doug Larson

 

Like many of us, I have my collection of unaccomplished goals in life. Several dreams and ideas I once had and set about to achieving them but never stayed the course and accomplished the goals that seems to be all important to me at one time. Loosing weight, getting healthy, starting my own business, getting a better job, adopting a healthier lifestyle, earning more money, buying a fancy car and the list goes on endlessly. Some of them I did manage to achieve, some I worked very hard  towards but gave up along the way, some I continue to work towards periodically, and some I shamelessly blame the circumstances or have managed to find an excuse to justify my failure. The series of these unaccomplished goals at times are overbearing on my motivational levels and setting newer goals in life. As we all know, we each have our set of several small and big life goals in life and we spend our life trying to achieving them. The dreams and ambitions are never ending and a continuous process where we pick up newer ones as we go along. Some we set to achieve, and some we let fizzle away sooner than we spent time coming up with the idea. Before we realize we are sitting amidts a clutter of unfinshied work. This is no different than sitting over a stack of papers in the pending file, or several pots and pans overfolwoing the sink in the kitchen that neeeds to be done but you never get the time to do it, and you ahevt nothign but mess around you. The long list of pending dreams only grows as your mind keeps jumping from one to another. So, what does drive such ambitions in life? What makes those other winners, and achievers in life different from us and why can’t we achieve our goals in life? After all, if we think about it, we realize that we too can do the same things many of these successful people have done and become successful. We are able, smart and hardworking people too who carry several or more of the skill sets displayed by many of these achievers. What truly differentiates us from others in achieving our goals and becoming successful and feeling great with the positive sense of accomplishment?

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.  ~Henry Ford

 

Playing a game on the Xbox or Playstation is simply an almost profound experience. The thrill of beating the opponents and getting to the next higher level keeps the player glued to game until all stages are won and have been totally satisfied that you have finished the game and achieved the ultimate score or level. If you put in a little more thought into it, you will realize that the amount of effort and skills punt into the relentless pursuit of achieving the ultimate score or beating the toughest level is par excellence. The player looses several times over and gets back into the game to cross that stage to the next. Then the perseverance and will continues from one higher and tougher level to another. From one maze and set of hurdles to another tougher obstacle the player consistently sets and relentlessly tries and beats the goals each time to eventually win the game. Night or day, sometimes all through the night and without break for food the game goes on. I find this whole process and the level of commitment to be fascinating. The process of choosing the goal, the level of focus towards attaining the goal, the strategic planning, execution and the perseverance brought to the game is nothing short of some excellent behaviors displayed by several world class achievers.  But what amuses me more is that why don’t people put in the same level of efforts, persistence, skills, and self induced motivation into achieving greater things in life. Where does the never say die attitude, the will, the level of endurance, the drive to face any obstacle and over come them regardless of number of times they have to go at it, the highest level of persistent until the game is won go when it comes to setting and achieving life goals? After all, it takes the same exact process that ones already endure to win at a video game to achieve greater and much more rewarding successes in life.

It is never too late to be who you might have been.  ~George Eliot

When it comes to setting real life goals and achieving them, there are several theories and strategically developed points that help one go about becoming successful. But there is little said about the purpose of life goals in comparison. Often it is the “purpose” of every life goal that drives an individual to stay the course and relentlessly pursue the goal to success or it lets them to deviate and eventually loose its value and interest in attaining them. The true driving factor towards any success in life, is the true value of the goal you set yourself to achieve. The value of this goal can only be defined by the purpose, the need, and what the end result will mean to you in your personal life. For example: If you aim to get a better paying job. It is more important to think of this goal through with the focus on why do you need this and what will you specifically achieve by attainting this goal. If the next job pays more, what will the pay increase accomplish and why is that important for you. You need a higher pay to afford a more comfortable living, buy an expensive car, save more for frequent holidays, buy more things for your children or family etc.? And why is this important? Is there any other way you can derive the same level of satisfaction with other things in life as opposed to being able to buy more things, or have you considered cutting down from your current list of expenses and save the amount of money you need to achieve these objectives? These are the kinds of questions one needs to truly ask and spend some time before choosing a life goal. The answers to such questions helps develop and realize the intensity of your particular need. The higher the need the more persistent you will be to achieve this goal and face any hurdles you may face along the way towards achieving this. If this need or choice of goal is not high on your need list, you will most likely be inclined towards giving up pursuing this goal at some point along the way. It could be your first major obstacle, the time it consumes, or you may find another way of attaining the same end results and you will soon lose steam. Before you realize you will soon have left behind a trail of such half initiated dreams and objectives that never got completed.

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.”

~ Zig Ziglar

The trouble of such unaccomplished goals and objectives is that it soon becomes a habit and would have taken the best of your time and skills. A sense of being a failure will begin to creep upon you and you will soon begin to be judged by your series of unaccomplished goals rather than your efforts or purpose in life. Several of us have such unaccomplished goals in life. For some reason to other, we all are guilty of doing this. We dream up an end result, get all excited towards achieving them, list up a rough idea on how we will go about achieving them, drum up some support, and begin to share our dreams and ambitions with everyone we can. But later, we lose focus and let other priorities and challenges take precedence before we realize we are dreaming up or chasing another goal we have chosen. This happens because the need to achieve the goal and the true end results of achieving them was not really high up on our “needs” list.  We find ways or learn of another means of achieving the same objective or often find other more interesting dreams to pursue.

I don’t care how much power, brilliance or energy you have, if you don’t harness it and focus it on a specific target, and hold it there you’re never going to accomplish as much as your ability warrants.  ~Zig Ziglar

You will find several processes and methods developed by many lifestyle and motivational coaches at the book store or on the web. But all of these processes are only meaningful if and only if your have chosen a goal which holds a very high value in terms of your needs. Once the need to achieve this goal is very well defined and understood with all your mind body and soul, you will develop a strong sense of focus towards achieving it and will set forth towards accomplishing your objective regardless of the obstacles, difficulties, challenges or time. Whether it is loosing weight, winning someone’s love, getting a better job, getting a promotion, making more money, buying a bigger house, it is worth spending considerable time on thinking through your choice of life goals and what it truly means to you and gets you in your life. It is imperative to  ask why this goal is important for you, and what impacts will the end result have in your life and more so, if the end result of achieving this goal is truly what you desire and if that is worth the time and trouble you are willing to put into achieving this goal in life. Imagine the surge of positivity and energy we can experience by being successful in life by accomplishing and achieving the meaningful goals we set for ourselves in our lives.

 

Life golas that are abandoned or never achived sits in your mind like clutter. The sense of unaccomplishment, failure and depression due to these feelings will conitnue to hurt you unless you do somethign about it. You need to stop procatinating right NOW!. Get up, get moving and first filter through the set of goals you have got. Discard the ones that are less meaningful in life and work on the ones that gives you a greater sense of purpose and value. Goals give you direction, focus, aim, motivation and purpose. Achieve them, accomplish more meaningful goals and live a happier and successful life. Once you have achieved one, set another higer goal and write your own success story. Remember: The only thing that stops you from being successful is you!

 Shoot for the moon.  Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.  ~Les Brown


Ordinary people do extraordinary things


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If you conform to the world and its ways as you have been asked or told to, you will always live in it just as everyone else have and continue to live. The limitations, the constrains, the complexities, the hurdles, disappointments, and the balanced amount of happiness will all be limited only by the constrains of your willingness, thoughts and a set of beliefs you have acquired from others. But your life is not limited by your true abilities, capabilities, freedom of expression, dreams and desires.

 

If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. ~Thomas Alva Edison

 

Every great person that we know of who have made the impossible and unthinkable possible were once just ordinary people like you. Their greatness came along and the shifted from being ordinary people into extraordinary ones by doing things that were different and against the comfort of conformity and helpless acceptance. They each stood their grounds, held on to their beliefs, used their skills, will and courage to realize what they believed in. They faced their share of criticism, swam against the tide, fought against the popular beliefs, challenged every single obstacle, failed, picked themselves up and achieved success with determination. Just as every ordinary people do almost in every life. Only they believed and set out to do things that were bigger, better and amazing. Some invented great things, some made movies, some developed technology, some discovered, some inspired people, some served humanity and some built amazing things. Collectively and individually they changed their lives, influenced other peoples lives and changed this world.

 

If all misfortunes were laid in one common heap whence everyone must take an equal portion, most people would be contented to take their own and depart. ~Socrates

 

If you take the time to read about any such extraordinary people and their lives, you will quickly learn that many of them came from very humble beginnings and some from very hard and stifling backgrounds. Many of them were rejected and faced severe criticism. Yet they persevered and persistently pursued their dreams. Some did it with focused discipline while some made it by erratic behaviours but with sheer confidence and courage. You will also simultaneously learn that almost every one of them faced the same daily challenges that we do. They were cheated, let down, failed etc, but every one of them never gave up and succumbed to defeat. They each had this amazing will power and wisdom to pick themselves up, dust their defeat away, learn from it, became more humble and marched their way to success. None of them had super natural powers, or were born into a life of protection and immunity of life challenges. They were just as ordinary people as you and I.

Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.

– Michael Jordan

What makes you different from such great people is your goals and purpose in life. If you choose, you can change your world and make it amazing. If you choose you can achieve your desires no matter how small or big they are. And if you choose you can never learn and keep facing your life from one problem to another. Should you choose a higher purpose, dream big, desire for unthinkable success and do greater things in life, you will. But these can only be realized when you begin to take your first step towards achieving these with determination, will, courage and focus. And when you do so, you will find yourself doing these simple but effective things that all great people do:

  • Think differently
  • Work hard towards your objective
  • Never rest until you achieve every small goals in your journey towards success
  • Learn to see and work each problem you face as your unique opportunity to develop a solution
  • Gain strength from each of your small successes and set higher goals
  • Learn from your mistakes and failures and try again with greater wisdom
  • Learn to be humble and not let your success stop your ability to grow further and do greater things
  • Meet and learn from other great and successful  people
  • Learn to see the positive in every person you meet and learn from them
  • Change and inspire everyone you meet and make them want to do great things too
  • Avoid petty thoughts and excessive indulgence in negativity and criticism of others and things
  • Learn to be tactful and smart in every things you do
  • Strive to be different and smarter than the ones you consider to be the best
  • And you will learn to change things if you do not like then and lead by carving your own path

The beauty of each of these characteristics is that you, the ordinary person, can do it today. You have the skills, the ability, the courage, the strength and the freedom of choice. You can achieve each and every thing you dream. From winning over someone’s love, to being successful in your job, achieving your career goals, doing greater things in life, staring your own business, making more money to achieving things that can change this world are all things you can do just and many other ordinary people before you did and continue to do daily. Think about this: Would you have more respect and appreciation for a boxer who fought a worthy opponent over several rounds by withstanding every blow and punch and yet managed to win the bout after several hard rounds or a boxer who knocked out his weak opponent in the first few seconds? The hardships and troubles make the win and success worthy. And yet the winner gathers the humility and class to thank his loosing opponent for the fight and say a few words of appreciation.

 

Life is not about discovering our talents; it is about pushing our talents to the limit and discovering our genius. ~Robert Brault

 

It all begins when you realize that in only takes the ordinary you to do the extra ordinary things in life.  And once you realize this, you take your first step now, and at this very moment. Not tomorrow, later or Monday! Now, this very second and do it with confidence.

 

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. ~Author Unknown


The right choice is often a difficult path


Start with what is right rather than what is acceptable. – Peter F. Drucker

Amongst all the wonders we are blessed with, one of the most powerful things that we have got is the power of “free will” or Choice. Specifically the choices we can make in life on a day to day basis between good and bad and how we wish to be or become as evolving human beings. I must also say that I am aware that choices are at times limited to people based on the circumstances they live in, but I am talking about the choices that still many have in lives in an effort to have a better living and happier and meaningful lives regardless of their circumstances.

Choice: a mental process which helps us to judge and analyze from multiple options and selecting one of them based on preference. Choosing from these multiple options usually results in a consequence or a need for action that would eventually derive at a desired consequence.  In any given day as human beings we are subject to making several choices that affect our living. They may be from the simplest forms to complex in nature. The consequences of these choices or decision to choose one from another may affect our lifestyle, religious affiliation, political position, finances, attitude towards others, reaction to situations, and health.

  It’s choice – not chance – that determines your destiny. – Jean Nidetch

Our life essentially is nothing but a collective result of the choices we have made along the way. There choices were made at several moments in life, based on several experiences and circumstances, but nevertheless these were our choices and we face and live the consequences of these very choices. We may choose to blame the circumstances, but nevertheless the choice was ours and we are solely responsible for those choices and the eventual outcome. We each have the power and freedom to choose right from wrong. Often we end up choosing easy from hard and sadly the hard ends up being the right one to choose. The righteous and just thing to do often involves hardships, disagreement from common folk, against certain odds, and at times contrary to common thinking. But it is in such choices that great accomplishments lie. Greatness has never been served on a silver platter, but it has only been earned by the choices made against all odds with the will, determination and perseverance. But it begins with the choice. And the power to choose is in your very power.

“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.”- Denis Waitley (1933-…, motivational speaker and author of The Psychology of Winning)

We are always faced with choices in our lives. We are always given these options and choices to choose from in almost every aspect of our life. But we need to have the wisdom, integrity, and the will to make the right choices for ourselves. The life we live is designed to challenge you to make the right choices in life. And each of your day to day choices result in a continuous change and the resulting consequences that shape your life. One must always remember that one can change his or her life by simply making the right choices in life. It’s entirely up to you. You can get rid of old habits, change unwanted situations, make better lifestyle choices, choose a better diet, choose better food, better friends, better reactions to situations and problems, and give yourself the wisdom and courage to achieve great things in your life by making good, educated and right choices in life.

 “Until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise” – Stephen R. Covey (1932-…, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

 In today’s world, many of us are also spoilt with choices. We do not know what is good for us and what is not. Young high school kids have trouble picking a profession, university or a carrier. Young graduates have trouble picking jobs, or company to work for, others have to choose their life partners, financial options, cars, life style, cell phones, televisions, computers, and even a simple cup of coffee is from a list of options and variations. There were times where I can walk into a Café and ask for a cup of coffee. I would get a cup of coffee, a jar of sugar and a pot of milk. Today in the name of quality service, brand and marketing gimmicks for an extra $4 whether you like it or not, you are forced to pick from Columbian, American, Costa Rican, host of other gourmet beans, ground, coarse, fine, Grande, Venti, Tall, milk, 2% milk, cream, black, white sugar, brown sugar, honey, sweetener, and still end up with just a coffee to kick-start your morning. But often these wonderful choices for many are bigger problems than convenience or luxury.

The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice. – George Eliot

One key factor that disturbs me most is the choice and decision of young kids today. They are very quick to choose, decide and almost demand the best and often most expensive when it comes to their clothes, video game units, laptops, mobile phones, and girl or boy friends. But in their most vital and formative age of life they deliberately choose the most vain, aimless, lazy, and easy way out of them, including education, profession and future. They either, opt out of school, defer university entrance, choose other vain interests over scoring good grades at school, learn, aim for an easy degree to graduate in, or a comparatively lower ambition in life when they have a choice to do better. This way they dwell in a world where mediocrity is considered the norm. They do not choose to get the best of grades, make it to the best of universities, get the best of professional qualifications, excel and specialize in their professional qualifications, get the best of jobs and live the best of lives.

“Man is made or unmade by himself. By the right choice he ascends. As a being of power, intelligence, and love, and the lord of his own thoughts, he holds the key to every situation.” – James Allen (1864-1912, author of As a Man Thinketh)

I do not mean that everyone has to be successful or be the top achiever in life although each truly carries the ability and can if they wanted. Being ordinary, mediocre is fine as well, but only if you can be happy and do not eventually become bitter of your own choices in the future. Often such individuals who make deliberate poor choices in life often seek the easy way out continue to take poor decisions that end them up assimilating a string of bad experiences, and resulting consequences due to their poor state of living. They will rather choose to get a fat loan or more than affordable car whether they have the means to fill the gas to run it or not. Some choose to spend their parents earnings on their cell phone bills and but never on a clean pair of jeans or clothes. They will choose to take advice and rest on the opinion of some half baked, semi-educated, councilor or a “friend” who will encourage dropping off from school and taking a hike across the country or to another country, smoke weed and have fun or get into a get rich quick dot.com business or buying their share of the pyramid scheme they themselves got suckered into. But they will hardly choose the advice of their selfless, hard-working, sacrificing and extremely caring parents and well-wishers who will often be willing to support their ambition with the best quality of education, universities, and help along the way by paying off their tuition fees as opposed to bank loans, get them a vehicle, give them a house to stay, etc.  I once was told that a person will invariably choose the best and eventually become very successful in life, if he or she is given only the best option as the only and last option to choose from. I guess is has become even more essential to educate todays’ youths on the realities of life and the consequences of human choices. Especially to help them from chasing unrealistic dreams such as the numerous pyramid or other get rich quick schemes with very little efforts. They need to be educated of the resulting proven consequences of better choices and to indulge in creative thinking and strategic planning and development of ideas for the real world that will help them succeed.

“You and I are essentially infinite choice-makers. In every moment of our existence, we are in the that field of possibilities where we have access to an infinity of choices.” – Deepak Chopra (1946-…, physician and author of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success)


Living in a bitter world without clear conscience


I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death.
Leonardo da Vinci

The strange thing about us human beings is that we often spend a lot of time and energy searching for ideas, and answers which often are found within ourselves. Many blame the world and everything they can and some often find their answers within. One of the most important answer we often seem to seek is: if we are doing the right thing? Or is what we are doing good for us? And as many accomplished and successful people have pointed out based on their own experiences: “listen to your inner voice or gut feeling”. Somehow this inner voice seems to know all the right answers and helps guide you often to the right things in life. And when we do something wrong it begins to eat us up from inside with guilt. But this inner voice is only heard if one pays attention and takes the effort to query or listen to it. And it only works if you take the necessary positive actions to do the right thing. This magical phenomenon that all of us have been gifted with is almost like a divine compass called Conscience. Like all the greatest gifts that we have Conscience is also another intangible and immeasurable possession like love, feelings, thinking etc.

Conscience is often found as a feeling of remorse when a human being commits actions that go against his or her moral values and beliefs. Conscience is like an aptitude, intuition or judgment of our thoughts and behaviours that distinguishes right from wrong. And us humans are asked to invoke this conscience universally through all religious belief systems and by means of any basic intellectual norms.

The word “conscience” is derived from the Latin word conscientia, meaning “privity of knowledge” or “with-knowledge”. The English word implies internal awareness of a moral standard in the mind concerning the quality of one’s motives, as well as a consciousness of our own actions. Conscience may be defined as the practical reason employed when applying moral convictions to a situation The many philosophers, or saints often ask to invoke our conscience to develop it, as they themselves do through daily contemplation or meditation combined with selfless service to others. Such developed state of conscience helps create a strong sense of intuitive insight or revelation to many. This helps a person to use their intellect towards positive and humane causes, pursue further knowledge, be self critical with the focus of self improvement and on a general level apply fair justice in his or her life.

The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.
Mohandas Gandhi

Yet we, the most developed and gifted species choose to live by killing our own conscience. Our pride, ego, anger and prejudice help us do things against our very own conscience until it is too late. The sad fact is that while one does things that go against their own moral values or beliefs, the conscience keep telling them that it is wrong. Once we do things against our conscience and fail, our conscience begins to hurt us with the feeling of severe guilt. But instead of taking the necessary positive steps to undo the damage many still continue to stifle this inner voice with rage and anger or drown it in intoxication. We the intelligent, civilized and knowledgeable species choose such.

All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent.
Thomas Jefferson

It is plain common sense that many of our personal and worlds’ ills are result of actions in rage and blind fury. The things we say to hurt others, the things we do to hurt others and ourselves, the greed we posses, the prejudice we hold, the disrespect we show are some of the things we do often against our conscience. The violent killings, the communal riots, steeling, damaging things, wars, or theft are all things that people do against their basic human moral values and beliefs. The greatest crimes against humanity are often over the deliberate killing of our own conscience. The person who commits the atrocity and the person who witnesses it and chooses to close their door on the facts and reality are both guilty of killing their own conscience.

Never do anything against conscience even if the state demands it.
Albert Einstein

But this gift of conscience is a wonderful thing. It is the conscience that makes the individual set out to accomplish great feats and do the impossible, it makes people charitable, invokes the wealthy to become philanthropists, invokes love, compassion, and righteousness. It makes us become better people, do greater things in life, and helps us succeed.

All credibility, all good conscience, all evidence of truth come only from the senses.
Friedrich Nietzsche

Development of Conscience:

Most people live with a self conceived idea and parameters of morality. It may be okay to lie a little but not to deceive or they may be comfortable to speak just to the advantages of doing something but choose to hide the negatives. But in general terms there is limit to who they choose to do and what they do not based on their moral values and comfort. These limits they choose change though time based on their individual experiences, social pressures and norms, or communal rituals and belief systems. But the conscience within eventually brings about a sense of balance as an individual evolves. But until such time the turmoil one can endure often affects their success and happiness in life.

When freedom does not have a purpose, when it does not wish to know anything about the rule of law engraved in the hearts of men and women, when it does not listen to the voice of conscience, it turns against humanity and society.
Pope John Paul II

So, how can one develop sound and balanced approach towards nurturing their conscience and morality to live a happy, content, and successful and guilt free life?

There are several theories based on studies of set groups. But it takes some honest self criticism and the will to self develop to come up with some key objectives:

1) One needs to see the need to self develop and the need to adhere to balanced and just moral values and conduct. This in turn helps develop their inner conscience on sound principles which will allow them to do what is right and make them feel bad when they go against it.

2) Fair judgement on balanced opinions and values. This can be practiced by not immediately reacting to any given situation. Exercising calm and some thinking can always help take a positive approach towards issues at hand. This becomes crucial to control haste and anger where patience and understanding would be more valuable.

3) Respect and Equality for one and all. This would avoid people holding prejudice and tame ones ego. People who do not practice this often continue to live a life of arrogance, and self indulgence at the cost of other people’s happiness, self respect and peace. But they also live a life of continuous fight against their inner guilt and general level of discontent about everything in life.

Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune.
Carl Jung

Life is too short to waste time over petty behaviours and toiling in guilt. Many of our ills and unhappiness are out of our own choices and actions in life which are often against out very one divine gift called conscience. By awakening and living in tune with our own conscience we can build better lives for ourselves, make more progress, co exist happily with one and other, live happier and become successful based on moral and clear thinking without the fear of guilt.

Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of celestial fire, called conscience.
George Washington


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