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It’s once again the time to reflect upon our last few days of gluttony and happiness with some amount of guilt and a lot of happiness. Soon, if not already, you will be asked and begin thinking about your New Year’s resolution. Once again many shall dismiss the need for them while others make some with the intentions to keep. While losing weight and getting healthy will continue to be the most popular choice, getting a new job, making more money, purchasing the dream home or car and moving to a new city shall remain in the top 10. Many shall reflect upon the good and the bad they experienced this last year and some shall learn from their experiences while others shall dust them off and continue to waddle into the next year with no lessons learned.
A few blog posts ago I had written a short story about how life lessons are very similar to climbing a mountain. It was a short story of a young man learning to climb a mountain from his uncle and after having reached the top his uncle passes some words of wisdom on the experience and how similar life can be. One of the lessons in this story was about how important it is to find strong grips to hold on to and use it to pull yourself higher up. But with that, a climber also needs to learn to let go of the previous one that he or she is holding on to presently. In order to progress we have let go of the old comforting footholds and have the courage to try and step upon new and higher grounds towards the top. Also from each experience we have we gather some wisdom on which footrests and grips are stronger and reliable in order to proceed further.
When a person is drowning they often try harder and do everything they can to swim towards the bank. Similarly, while swimming one tries to put their best effort at the beginning and spend all their force and energy towards the finish line. But what if one remains consistent all through the race and continuously progress from one stride to another? Why does one have to do their best only towards the end? What would happen if one spends such wisdom, energy and efforts all through their life at everything they strive to accomplish?
It is very nice to use the New Year as a symbolic time to reflect upon the past and make plans towards the future and set out with all good intentions to achieve them. But I believe we need to do this all through the year and it should be a continuous process of self analysis and progressive development. A healthy eating plan need not be out of sheer guilt after indulging during the Christmas Holidays. It should rather be a continuous process all through the year. The same applies to any progressive development and strategies one pick up in an effort to develop and achieve in life. But all through this process we have to learn to let go of the old and move ahead. We cannot progress by holding on to our old ways, thinking, hate, prejudice, anger, or habits. The only way to move ahead is forward towards better things and higher goals in life. We need to constantly reflect upon the choices we have made and what it has brought us and then amend our thinking with realization and action towards self improvement. Building better relationships, taking the time to improve meaningful relationships, learning something new, giving up on old stubborn ego based habits, and making better choices always leads to happier endings and content life. Some of these may not be easy, and we may need to persevere and struggle to make it happen. But the rewards of such things in life are equally greater. As an example: What is the greatness in loving someone who is already in love with you. It is given that you the mutual love in itself is a reward in a way. But the real greatness is in forgiving someone you doesn’t love you and still respecting them and loving them for the good in them, regardless of what they think of you. This makes you a better person, gives you greater wisdom, respect and the rewards shall equally be greater in life.
While making a New Years resolution this time, consider making a resolution to actively indulge in self improving habits by continuously reflecting on your actions of the past and taking action towards getting better all through the year. Making new and developmental resolutions should be a daily and continuous habit to truly improve and succeed. Have a vision for self and pursue it relentlessly from the begning to the end until you accomplish it. We do it at work, we struggle to help make others visions come true, we spend out time and energy towards realizing others dreams. We need to do the same for ourselves too. We need to develop a vision, dream, develop strategies, make plans, and put it into action. Then we have to overcome obstacles, face challenges and persevere and once the goal is accomplished, move on to the next dream. From this year to the next and forever!
So here again we move ahead. Learning from one past and leaping into another with more wisdom and lesson learnt. Poised with more knowledge and eager confidence to accomplish more for ourselves and share lot more with others in our never ending pursuit to become better, happier, wealthier and wise. Progressively evolve into better beings and do greater things in life. Perhaps from many a simple and single goal to overcome one hurdle just. It may seem simple for others but may be a major one for self. But nevertheless, progress.
I don’t think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday. – Abraham Lincoln
The Arabs may celebrate their spring, the dictators shall fall, the grief stricken victims of natural disasters shall dust themselves off their sorrow, the 99% shall learn that earning money is better than just protesting against those who have it and the loan lords may bail out the corrupt again. What was once mighty shall fall, the former free countries shall become more suffocating and arrogant, the economic super powers shall become poor while the former poor countries shall fuel the global economic growth. History shall repeat once again and the old paradigms shall die at the hands of new ideologies. Collective wisdoms and popular decisions may fail and the individual idea shall win. More heros shall die and newer ones will be born. Tablet computers will become a things of the past while the next generation seeks for cooler technologies.
God has entrusted me with myself. – Epictetus
While the world revolves and evolves each one of shall ponder upon our individual lives again. We shall each evolve as well. Perhaps we will find more meaning in faith and spirituality than religious rituals and senseless intolerance of others. We may realize that all Gods of all faith systems asks of the same morals and values while the religion and rituals made by men differ. Yet the common basics shall prevail universally where, thou shall not kill, not tell lies, respect others etc will be the norm. We may be more sincere to ourselves and to others. Perhaps we may consider forgiving others and letting our grudges and bitterness go. Instead we may learn from others, be open to the idea of self improvement, read more, learn more, become healthier, live happier lives and create nicer experiences by making better choices. Above all, we may truly take responsibility of our lives and understand that our reactions and choices are the only two things that dictate the outcome of our individual lives. Being a better, caring, humble and greater human being is much more than being an American, a good Christian, a wealthier person or an efficient yes man to your employer.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover” – Mark Twain
But as these various things shall happen at multiple levels in our lives, some will influence us while others may not. But one thing that shall continue from one year to the other is our own lives and what we do with it. How we react to it, what do we choose to do, and where do we place our values, morals and beliefs. Do we call for a protest to change the system or do we take individual efforts to change it by action, do we continue to curse our jobs and bosses or learn more and become better at it to manage it as per our wishes, do we follow other peoples opinions or venture out to learn by ourselves and form our own? Are some of the many questions we shall ask ourselves. But what ever we shall decide to do it can only happen by our courage, and the action we take towards achieving it.
The most useful piece of learning for the uses of life is to unlearn what is untrue. ~Antisthenes
Wisdom and countless lessons lies scattered around us. Wisdom is right underneath our thumbs through our mobile browsers. Yet we choose to do things that defies common sense, logic or basic morals. We choose to do things that harms our health, hurt others, run ourselves into debts, cling on to greed, and continue to blame others for everything that is wrong in our lives but ourselves. We are wise, most intelligent of all creations, quite capable, and bustling with potential, yet we let ourselves fall victim to our laziness, excuses, and circumstances. We must strive to learn the truth and gain the wisdom to differentiate between what is not true and what is. Then we must muster all our courage to do what is the the right things to do and stand by the truth.
If you would attain to what you are not yet, you must always be displeased by what you are. For where you are pleased with yourself there you have remained. Keep adding, keep walking, keep advancing. ~Saint Augustine
So, if it wasn’t the year before it is perhaps the coming year! The year where we shall no longer sit still and let things happen to us. The year where we shall take charge of our individual lives and get off that couch of comfort. We may live or die, but we know we have this one chance and one life to do what ever we can and wish for. We shall seek out the opportunities, and the chances to become better and successful in life. We shall no longer wait for wisdom and luck to fall in our laps. We shall evolve, become better and do greater things in life. Just keep asking yourself one thing: “What am I doing to make myself better?”, take action towards becoming better and the world will become a much better place. Happy New Year!
“The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.”
– Randy Pausch