The vanity of the Self entitled kind

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“A man can be as great as he wants to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the dedication, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile it can be done.” – -Vince Lombardi


The above quote is true to those who believe in working hard towards their dreams and earning every bit of their success. But seldom do we see such individuals who stand tall on their rightfully earned success, wealth, adoration, respect, and all that which comes along with these.

What we find more frequently and often within ourselves is an unrealistic sense of self entitlement. A trait that is more prevalent amongst the younger generation. We expect recognition, rewards, promotion at work, success, wealth, authority, and respect often before we have earned them. Regardless of how little we truly do to earn these, we have become accustom to demand these as though it is our birth right. The enormous sacrifices and lives of the veterans and founders of our respective countries are seldom realized by the flag waving, chest thumping individuals of today who have taken the freedom and respect of their nation for granted. Similarly, the wants for a fancier car, flashier mobile phones, bigger houses, higher pay cheques, gorgeous looking mates, and honest and virtuous spouses are desired regardless of the individuals own efforts to earn them by their character, deeds, qualities, education and hard work.


One of the consequences of such notions as entitlements is that people who have contributed nothing to society feel that society owes them something, apparently just for being nice enough to grace us with their presence.- Thomas Sowell


Everybody has aspirations, desires and dreams. Some dream to be rich, some to become a celebrity and some to find true love. But we seldom think about what we are doing with our time, skills and energy towards attaining these things. More importantly we never think if we are truly working towards becoming worthy of what we desire for. The simple wisdom behind this states that if and when one becomes worthy of something they will soon acquire it. This means for example: if you wish to become a successful writer, then you will have to begin to hone your skills as a writer and keep learning to become better as a writer. And once you work towards such dreams you will eventually pave your way to becoming a great writer and success will eventually meet you. Likewise, if you do not conduct yourself in a manner that commands respect you will never get it by demanding it. You can never get true respect, love or recognition unless you earn them by your behaviour that is worth of such things.


Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.
Napoleon Hill


You have no one to blame for not being able to achieve what you desire for but often yourself. One needs to see and understand the need to earn their respect, dreams and wishes. And the effort put towards earning such things in life often paves the path and enables you to meet your dreams. There is no substitute for hard work and perseverance towards ones goals in life. People who adapt such relentless hard work, focus and continuous self development towards their goals in life often achieve them and enjoy the glory and success. While those who choose to just desire and never do anything towards meeting their possible success often end up taking solace in their failure or excuses for not being able to become successful. Success and wealth has often been a result of hard, persistent and sincere work with courage, perseverance and unwavering focus towards achieving it.

“We learn by doing.”


All of us have our individual potentials and skills. We each have our share of battles to fight and hurdles to overcome. We are no different from the next person. But some amongst us choose to earn their success while many do not. This single choice often differentiates us between the haves and have not’s. People become successful because they choose to work towards their success. Success hasn’t come to anyone easy and never to those who just keep dreaming of it. You earn your success.

“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.”

-John Quincy Adams

If one takes this simple wisdom towards every aspect in life, one can certainly experience a much more rewarding life. You earn the love you seek, the respect you cherish, the wealth you desire, the success you dream of and the lifestyle you aim. The only question you need to keep asking yourself is: What am I doing to earn what I desire?

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau


One response to “The vanity of the Self entitled kind

  • letsspreadcompassion

    Youth has developed a habit of ridiculing achievements of ancestors and sitting idle not giving others a chance to ridicule them.The ‘no care’ attitude which declares that they are the sole owners of their lives, who don’t accept what others have to say or suggest.
    They will change only when they are deprived off the luxuries of life.An easy life develops no worth.They need to learn the lessons of life the tough way.

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