Your life – Shaped by your choices!


Life is not a result of the circumstances you find yourself in, but the choices you make within these circumstances. You choose to live or choose to die, fight and win or crumble and fall, move ahead, or stay where you are, in every possible way, you are constantly in the process of making choices and experiencing them. And these choices define you and bring about a set of experiences that influences every aspect of your personality, being and life. A good majority of the top achievers, leaders, musicians, scientists and successful people faced the most challenging of circumstances in life. But what made them great and succeed are the choices they made within their share of challenges and dire circumstances.
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.
Wayne Dyer
Amongst all the wonders we are blessed with, one of the most powerful abilities we have got distinctively from other living beings, is the unique power to choose. Here I am talking about choices we make in life on a day to day basis between good and bad and as human  beings as opposed to be possessed by emotions, ego and pride which often is not necessarily the right choices. I must also say that I am aware that choices are at times limited to people based on the circumstances they live in, thus I am talking about those who can still make better choices in lives in an effort to have a better living and happier and meaningful lives regardless of their circumstances.

What is this ability to choose? What is choice?

It is the mental process which helps us to judge and analyze from multiple options and selecting one of them based on preference. Choosing from these multiple options usually results in a consequence or a need for action that would eventually derive at a desired consequence.  In any given day or human beings are subject to making several choices that affect their living. They may be from the simplest forms to complex in nature. The consequences of these choices or decision to choose one from another may affect their lifestyle, religious affiliation, political position, finances, attitude towards others, reaction to situations, and health.

Choice-not chance-determines human destiny
-Zig Ziglar

Our life essentially is nothing but a collective result of the choices we have made along the way. There choices were made at several moments in life, based on several experiences and circumstances, but nevertheless these were our choices and we face and live the consequences of these very choices. We each have the power and freedom to choose right from wrong. Often as humans we end up choosing easy from hard and sadly the hard ends up being the right one to choose. The righteous and just thing to do often involves hardships, disagreement from common folk, against certain odds, and at times contrary to common thinking. But it is in such choices that great accomplishments lie. Greatness has never been served on a silver platter, but it has only been earned by the choices made against all odds with the will, determination and perseverance. But it begins with the choice. And the power to choose is in your very power.

We are always faced with such choices in our lives. Who we choose to marry, fall in love with, make friends with, what we choose as a career, how we choose to behave, react to situations in life, how we choose to build our personality, Where we choose to work, what we choose to speak, etc are always chosen from several options we have. We are always given these options and choices to choose from in almost every aspect of our life. But we need to have the wisdom, integrity, and the will to make the right choices for ourselves and in an effort to make our world a much better place. The life we live is designed to challenge you to make the right choices in life. And each of your day to day choices result in a continuous change in the resulting consequences that shape your living. It may seem hard to imagine right at this moment, but you can change your life by simply making the right choices in life. It’s entirely up to you. You can get rid of old habits, change unwanted situations, make better lifestyle choices, better diet, choose better food, better friends, better reactions to situations and problems, and give yourself permission to achieve great things in your life by making good, educated and right choices in life.

Here are a few more chosen inspirational quotes from some well known people that will help you understand the power of choice:

“Man is made or unmade by himself. By the right choice he ascends. As a being of power, intelligence, and love, and the lord of his own thoughts, he holds the key to every situation.” – James Allen (1864-1912, author of As a Man Thinketh)

“You and I are essentially infinite choice-makers. In every moment of our existence, we are in the that field of possibilities where we have access to an infinity of choices.” – Deepak Chopra (1946-…, physician and author of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success)

“Until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise” – Stephen R. Covey (1932-…, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.”- Denis Waitley (1933-…, motivational speaker and author of The Psychology of Winning)

The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice. – George Eliot

 Start with what is right rather than what is acceptable. – Peter F. Drucker

It’s choice – not chance – that determines your destiny. – Jean Nidetch

In today’s world, many of us are also spoilt with choices. We do not know what is good for us and what is not. Young high school kids have trouble picking a profession, university and ambitions. Young graduates have trouble picking jobs, or company’s to work for, others have to choose their life partners, financial options, cars, life style, cell phones, televisions, computers, and even a simple cup of coffee is from a list of options and variations. There were times where I can walk into a Café and ask for a coffee. I would get a cup of coffee, a jar of sugar and a pot of milk. Today in the name of quality service, brand and marketing gimmicks for an extra $4 whether you like it or not, you are forced to pick from Columbian, American, Costa Rican, host of other gourmet beans, ground, coarse, fine, Grande, Venti, Tall, milk, 2% milk, cream, black, white sugar, brown sugar, honey, sweetener, and still end up with just a coffee to kick-start your morning. But often these wonderful choices for many are bigger problems than convenience or luxury.

One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words. It is expressed in the choices one makes. And the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

One key factor that disturbs me most is the choice and decision of young kids today. They are very quick to choose, decide and almost demand the best and often most expensive when it comes to their clothes, video game units, laptops, mobile phones, and cars. But sadly at the most defining moments in time and age they often lean towards making wrong choices. The process of self entitlement often applies to the materialistic things in life whether they deserve it or not, but never do they feel they are entitled to work hard, become a professional, earn a university degree, and earn themself the best life that can. They either, opt out of school, defer university entrance, choose other vain interests over scoring good grades at school, learn, aim for an easy degree to graduate in, or a comparatively lower ambition in life.  They choose to stay up night after night to beat every level in their video game and get the top score, but never choose to apply the same vigour, determinations and will to fight every stage in life to become successful. This way they dwell in a world where mediocrity is considered the norm. They do not choose to get the best of grades, make it to the best of universities, get the best of professional qualifications, work hard and earn their success, excel and specialize in their professional qualifications, get the best of jobs and live the best of lives. And often ending up being bitter people and blaming the system, others and anything they can for their own personal bad choices and many times, made against sound advises and pleading by their loved ones.

Every choice you make has an end result. – Zig Ziglar

Taking full responsibility of your choices and the resulting consequences is essential for a person to progress. Blaming others, circumstances and systems is the easy way out of putting the true blame where it belongs.  Often such vain individuals who often seek the easy way out continue to take poor decisions that leads  them to take a string of bad actions, and face the resulting consequences due to their poor choices. The importance of making educated and balanced choices has become more important in today’s world and much more important for the younger generation. The earlier they realize this and are educated about the need for making good choices, thinking out the total consequences of their choices and taking responsibility of their choices the better are the chances they will lead a much happier and successful life in their adulthood.   They truly need to understand about the need to choose to work harder, learning more, getting educated, earning more, becoming better as people, taking calculated risks, living within their realistic affordability, making sound choices for self improvement, being self critical in and effort to become better and choosing to do all it takes to become successful!

Educated and quality choices about self, others, life, and character will only result in success, happier life and lead an individual to great achievements. Make better choices and stop blaming the world, circumstances, others and the dog next door. Your life is your responsibility, so dare to make your choice and make a damn good one that will make you the best!


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