The power of your influence over others


If the single man plant himself indomitably on his instincts, and there abide, the huge world will come round to him. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Remember the time when you had met someone and were left impressed by their character, words or gesture? Or the person who you always wanted to be like? Do you remember the person who last inspired you to do something better or strive for something that you believed to be greater?

 

For everyone of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn’t always necessarily have to be in your family; for me it was teachers and school. – Oprah Winfrey

The other day I was at one of the Pizza joints in the area for lunch. The one thing that I like about this place other than the reasonable priced – reasonably good enough pizzas is the box they serve the pizzas in. Once you flip open the lid you will find an inspirational or thought provoking story on the inside of the lid. Many of these stories are of common knowledge to many. But every once in a while I find a story that truly makes me think deeply and leaves a few thoughts about certain aspects of life in my mind.

This time the article was about one person telling a little story about his best friend. He begins the story on how he met his best friend for the first time where he helped him up from the floor after he was bullied and kicked down by a bunch of kids at school on a Friday afternoon. He described how his friend was a bit nerdy looking at first for him and how they hit it off the very instant they met and began chatting for a while as they walked to their neighbourhood from school. That very evening he invited his friend over for a party and ever since they became very good friends and remained so till the day they graduated from University many years later.   

And on the day of the graduation his best friend gave a speech to the school. In his speech he thanked his school, parents and then went on to finally thank his best friend (the writer of this story) for being there for him all through these years. And then he said that he thanks his most for the very day he met him many years ago and helped him off the floor at school and later on invited him over to his house that evening. For, he went on to explain, that if he hadn’t met him that evening or invited him over to this house, he had planned to commit suicide that evening as he was feeling very depressed and lonely in life. ……. The writer closes the story abruptly here expressing his shock and disbelief on the influence he had on his best friends’ life by that one simple momentary gesture at school many years ago.

You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.  ~John Wooden

As we live, learn, get inspired by others, pick our idols, build our life goals, and get influenced by the people we meet in life, we often fail to realize the power of our own individual character and the influence it has over the people we meet daily. There are several people who watch us and learn from us without our knowledge. Our siblings, children, youngsters, people at work, or even those who we do not even meet with in person observe us and either learn from us, get inspired by our behaviours or words or may also learn from our mistakes. But we seldom realize the influence we exert on our surroundings.

The way you think, the way you behave, the way you eat, can influence your life by 30 to 50 years.
Deepak Chopra

 

A small gesture of holding the door open for the person behind you when walking into a store could influence the person behind you to do the same of the next person behind them. You working hard and becoming successful inspires your co workers to aspire for the same. You choosing to go to a university and qualify for a professional career can inspire your siblings to follow suit. You choosing to volunteer for a cause or being charitable can influence your social friends to join you. A simple little hug to your Mum or Dad can make them feel loved and make their day. A 5 minute phone call to a friend can perhaps get them to smile or forget their problems for a while.  Such are a few things you can do daily that influences the people around you much more than you may ever know.

 

Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.
George Eliot

 

Our lives are shaped by how we react to all the things that happen to us daily. A positive thing influences us to react positively. We will rather smile back to the stranger who smiles at us. Next time, you are out and about try this simple test. While you are at a mall or just walking down the street you invariably often make eye contact with strangers. We you have established eye contact with a stranger walking towards you just smile and nod at them as though you are wishing them. 9 out of 10 times that person will smile and nod back at you. This just proves the simple phenomenon of how everyone reacts positively to every positive act of yours.  

Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.
Napoleon Hill

 

Your life becomes lot more gratifying and fulfilling when you do good and gain the appreciation of others. You build your confidence, character, and personality traits by such recognition and appreciation. Hence you go on to do more such good deeds and create positive experiences for yourselves and others in life. And one find day you will find yourself happier having lived a life of such wonderful experiences and a collection of positive influences you have had on your family, friends and many others rather than regrets and cringe worthy acts of yours.

There are two ways of exerting one’s strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up.  Booker T. Washington

Be aware of your influence on others. While you observe others and get influenced by experiences and people in your life, there are many others who are watching you and getting influenced by you. Be the inspiration for someone in their lives. Fill your daily life with kid gestures and good deeds and by such simple kid acts you lead and influence all those around you to do the same or even better.

 

Setting an example is not the main means of influencing another, it is the only means.

 Albert Einstein

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