Tomorrow comes when it’s too late: Quick criticism and delayed appreciation


 

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Today I swung by Starbucks to get my usual fix of caffeine. Although I am not a big fan of Starbucks coffee I must say that I truly enjoy the atmosphere of this particular store. With the usual separate entrance door from the outside it is within a popular books store. Conveniently and strategically placed in the corner of the book store, it sits spreading its aroma beside the Magazines and newspaper stand.

 

I grabbed my latte and walked up to Calorie stand to load it up with the brown sugar, and cream in my desperate effort to drown the strong Columbian flavour that is sold like fine wine. While I was going about building my perfect concoction, I couldn’t help notice the side display of the magazine stand. There sat the line up of the best and most popular weekly and monthly issues. Fortune, Time, Newsweek, New Yorker etc all sat there touting their story. What was amusing is the fact that all their covers had the same person: Steve Jobs! Commemorative issues and weekly issues all praising the genius and thanking him for his amazing and wondrous contributions made to our world. The New Yorker even had St. Peter standing at the Pearly gates holding an I Pad welcoming Steve Jobs. Needless to say that all praise and adulations still fall short of the contributions made by him.

I was never too keen on the British music press. They’ve called us a supermarket hype, and they used to suggest that we didn’t write our own songs. ~ Freddie Mercury
 
What truly amuses me is the fact that such greatness is only admired, revered and honoured only after such an individual passes away. If we recollect, we can list several such great contributors to our world who have often been ridiculed and criticized endlessly until their demise and from that moment on the media and press can only remember their greatness and contributions. They will thank them, honour them, list their achievements and contributions and solemnly realize the amazing gift they were when they lived. But all this only occurs after they are gone. Some of our greatest scientists, musicians, artists, actors, politicians were all victims to many harsh criticisms when they lived and soon turned into great individuals and contributors to their profession, art and the world only after their death. Galileo Galilee, Socrates, Vincent Van Gogh, Emily Dickson, Kurt Cobain, Michael Jackson are a very few who come to mind.

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread. ~ Mother Teresa

 

The same is true within our immediate life circles as opposed to famous people or celebrities. We truly come to appreciate our siblings, friends, parents, grandparents family members only after we lose them or they leave us. And all the time while they were alive never once it occurs to us to walk up to them and appreciate them or thank them for the value and joy they bring to us in our lives. Often when we happen to lose someone who we never liked or hated at times, we find it very hard to think of the very reasons why we held such feelings for them. The only thoughts that occupy our minds are the good memories and the nice things they did for us when they were alive. Often too little and too late to be realized and appreciated.  Weather we taken them for granted, we are blinded by our arrogance and pride, or carelessly leave such thoughts for later in life, we often come to a stage when we regret not having done what we should have much earlier. The guilt, sorrow and the regret once such time arrives is too burdensome for many.  I myself am guilty of such gross negligence and arrogance. I find it very difficult to bury my guilt when I think of the idiotic reasons I held on to against my mother when she was alive and never did give her the love and affection she very much was longing for. Then a few days after she passed away, I opened her cupboard and found the favourite toys from my childhood neatly arranged on the first main shelf. I was away during her last few years alive and seldom spoke to her over the phone. Yet she kept looking at these toys every single day she opened her cupboard and perhaps cherished the memories it brought to her.

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. ~ Albert Schweitzer

 

We live in an age and time of false sense of entitlement and the need for instant momentary gratification. We live a life of greater wants and ambition with dwindling values and appreciation for many things and people.  Seldom do we stop to realize our actions or the repercussion of our spontaneous bursts of criticism and opinions without any thought put into it. We are too quick to criticize, blame others, discard sound advices, and continue to live with our prejudice, inflated egos, momentary satisfactions, arrogance and deliberately living in denial. Yet we carry the audacity to feel insulted and aggravated when someone points our mistakes, criticizes our actions, volunteers their advices or offers to help us get better.  

 

Our souls may lose their peace and even disturb other people’s, if we are always criticizing trivial actions – which often are not real defects at all, but we construe them wrongly through our ignorance of their motives. ~ Saint Teresa

We truly need to practice more Thank you, generosity, selflessness, appreciation of others, understand their importance, and realize their value as we would like others to extend the same to us. We can truly become much happier people by being appreciative of others, things and people in our lives and become less bitter and angry individuals by giving up on criticising others, being cynical, holding hatred, and being intolerant.

 

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. ~ Dale Carnegie

 

By appreciation, we make excellence in others our own property. ~ Voltaire

 

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